The Quantum Physics of Talk
The mysterious malady I was struck with last week that seemed to have both physical and emotional components has passed without aspirin, anti-depressants, or surgery. It was treated with one part poetry, one part private dance party (compliments of Jack Johnson and Dave Matthews), and an exceptionally dynamic monthly women’s dialogue.
I didn’t want to go, feeling un-presentable and with nothing of interest to offer, but after a year of meeting monthly with this small group of women, I have come to trust the form. And sure enough, sometime during the few hours we spent together my heart opened up. I saw others deeply and felt seen by them.
In this quantum physics of talk, each woman’s story holds a piece of our own. We don’t judge or give advice. We tell our own unrehearsed story. We listen to others and something happens. It’s a non-intellectual, spontaneous living circle, a place where I can question my own assumptions, become aware of my coping mechanisms, be honest and vulnerable and ask questions. Should I be doing more? Or less? Is a small life enough? What’s the point? How can I be more playful?
I’m learning to value my sensitivity to the subtle, to address what makes me shake. Hits me in the gut. A cue to speak up. Risk it. Progress! Emotional bumps that used to take hours to unravel and process can now move along in about 10 minutes. I go to dialogue for the insight, the laughter and goosebumps. I go like my life depends on it. I have no rule book for this late-life puberty I’m in.
I went thinking something was wrong with me and left thinking not so much.
January 3rd, 2011 6:47 pm
YOu are more than fortunate to have this forum in which to explore your journey…with trust, actual trust. I would give money for that!
January 3rd, 2011 7:14 pm
I wish I had a place to go and let it all hang out too and not be judged. xox
PS I am glad you are back!!
January 4th, 2011 8:57 am
How fortunate to have friends and a place to go to be yourself! I am glad you are feeling better. Happy New Year to you; may it be blessed.
January 4th, 2011 2:25 pm
How great that this kind of meet-up is so helpful. I’m afraid my tiredness comes from being older and not having the energy I use to have to entertain 17 people! For me, REST is the Best Medicine…But, I think it is terrific that you have this forum—-PLUS your wonderful Talent for writing, my dear.
January 4th, 2011 2:31 pm
Rest is the first/best medicine for me too. Fatigue can often affect my emotional outlook which can require a differnt kind of remedy. I am still fatigued but my spirits have uplifted which in turn can be a good step in affecting my fatigue for the better.
February 7th, 2011 1:04 pm
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